Marriage relationship is under attack.

Christian home is born through marriage relationship. The number of divorce  attests to the level of attack on homes. Take  a look at the graph from UK office of national statistics.

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From the graph above the rate of marriage has declined since 1980 and according  to recent statistics the rate of divorce actually rose.

See the table below



But  most of  the  time as Christians, we do not consider  that our marriages [ homes]   could be facing  so much  attack   from various directions, through a single source,  to achieve one singular aim , break  up of our marriages.

There is an attack on   Christian homes and this attack originated from the devil  . The devil opposes all that is good and  Godly   including marriage .

Some  break  up of  marriage relationship would sometimes appear  like fictional stories! But it is true. The reason being that  the devil  could  be very tricky and  subtle in the attack on homes. He uses our “Achilles heel”.

No marriage is exempted irrespective of their standing in the  Lord or the acclaim level of moral standard.Just as no church is exempted from the attack of the devil. Even God’s blessing,  such as children, money or other material things can be turned upside down by the devil as a reason for separation and eventual divorce.

Many Christian couples  whose  marriage ended up in  divorce  would normally recalled   that  if given the chance they would have done differently!

The   difficulties and problems  in  marriage should not be    understood from physical events happening around   only.  If we do ,we would   not have had the whole picture,    because there is an   enemy outside the Home. Hence the need for home security.



Why should the devil take interest  in your home  ?.

1 Home is the  unit that makes  up the church of Christ.

2 The church is the show piece to the world  of Christ’s accomplishment  following his death and resurrection. Christ came to the world to build the church. If the devil opposed Christ, he has to oppose the church and hence Christian homes.

Jesus is coming back for the same     glorious church without spot or wrinkle.

3 The authority in the home is to mirror that   of Christ and the church.

4 The love of Christ  for the church  is to  be seen and read by unbelievers

through the husband’s love  for the wife.

5 God commands that whatever He has joined  together, let no man separate! The devil is clearly at war  with the church and the word of God. The devil  will stop at nothing  to separate couples that are  keeping the principles of the word of God in marriage.

6 When  the husband fails  to live  with his wife in “understanding”, it will result    in hindrance to  prayers. An assault on a Christian home is an easy way of hindering prayers.

7 The  home is  a place   to   raise  Godly  offspring .

9 A broken marriage is a way of destroying the destiny of children who are the  church of  tomorrow.

Christian marriage is a spiritual relationship and once Christ   is taken out of it ,we would not be able to resist the devil.

No relationship would fulfil the purpose of God without awareness of spiritual battle  and  associated vigilance

The bible says we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against  principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places.

Many Christians are aware of spiritual battle for other things, such as  job, health  problems, dispossession of material things,  but not dispossession of  their marriage and homes

When   spouses   start to notice negative changes in the other, what they should  not do is to nag, threaten  with separation or divorce but  it is a time to pray and fight for your home. It is the time to allow the love of Christ show forth in our relationship. [see our article on change in relationship]

When  jobs or businesses are under threat, many of us will pray and fast to secure our business or even to acquire properties but when there is a threat  to our homes,  we engage in physical warfare rather than spiritual. We easily give up and gradually  end the marriage!

Next  to salvation, the next   thing the devil wants to attack is the  relationship with  your spouse.

Remember that the whole concept  of Christianity    is about relationship with God and then man.

If you desire to fulfil God‘s assignment for your home by raising Godly offspring, you will need to fight spiritual battle to achieve God’s purpose for it. Every family has an assignment from God to fulfil which will only be achieved through obedience to  His word.

Tips for spiritual fight in your marriage.

Know that your  marriage is of GOD.

1 Understand your  relationship  and  your  spouse’s  behaviour from the spiritual point of view.

2 When  you  notice negative changes in your spouse, it is time to  engage all the tools for spiritual warfare.

3 If  your  spouse is not a Christian or they do not believe in the concept of the devil ,   the bible advised that  with your good conduct towards them, they would be  won over.

How sad is it that some marriages have gone under after one partner returns to the church. The Christian life should make our conduct better. Next to our salvation is the spiritual welfare of our spouse. Therefore the believer in the relationship   should engage the spiritual weapon to safeguard the home.

4 Unforgiveness : If we do not forgive men ( starting with our spouse) their offence /sin against them, God will not forgive us,  our own offences.

Un forgiveness  disarms and imprisons  Christians  so that they are not able  to safeguard their faith and their home.

Offence is quite common between spouses which are expected as we are more likely to offend people who are close to us. Beware of offences  and unforgiveness.

5 Follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.

6 Avoid bitterness with spouse no matter how bad we believe they are.   Bitterness troubles people  and defile Christians. We need to live in love with our spouses. It is easy to accept, if we say we live in love with other Christian friends.

Bitterness  is a fruit of broken relationship. It  emerges  when marriage relationship is on a downward journey and things begin to fall apart. Spouse may continue to go to church and engage in routines in the church and observe other religious duty. Individuals will know that they have ceased to live in love!   No matter the line of defence. Remember   once you are out of love with your spouse, you are in broken relationship with God. You cannot fight any battle in that state.

7 Your home is born of God; It is inherently able to win   because whatever is born of GOD overcomes the world.

Avoid justification for your inaction such as “we married as unbelievers” “My spouse is an unbeliever” “I do not  love him/her”

Some christian couples separate/divorce  because they believe that they do not want them to do the “Ministry” work. A ministry from God to men that has not started with one’s spouse remains doubtful. The husband man should be the first partaker of the fruit of the vines.

God is in man reconciling (making friend of people) the world to himself. Difficult to get to the point of divorce if the reconciliation has  started from your home.

8 Prayers

9 Counselling

10 Fasting may be needed

11Applying the word of God especially living in love . The fact that the church  stands all the assault of the devil is a living  testimony that your home can stand .    The word of God applied correctly has inherent ability to prevail just as the bible said that

“the word grew and prevailed”. God‘s word will prevail over the ranging storm of any marriage.

The greatest weapon to defeat the enemy in your home is to live in love with your spouse.

No matter how strong the storm in  any marriage, even if everyone says the marriage is over, the home will stand because God’s word says so!

Marriage is of God. The sole attack of the devil is the church and your home is the first target. Fight for it. Don’t  give up , if you go to a counsellor who says  your marriage is irredeemable , move away from that counsellor , The counsellor  is not speaking the language of God to you in that situation.


STAND YOUR GROUND. Having done all stand so the bible says!.

Refuse to see your spouse as your enemy. It is the adversary of the church  the devil who is.

Marriage is special to God. God has an investment in every home that the devil    wishes to plunder. Fight for your home!